I think love can most accurately be measured in moments of presence.
Because moments spent thinking of the past or spent spaced out and imagining the future aren’t moments you can also overflow in the now.
The moment your mind leaves the now… your love leaves with you.
Which isn’t to say we should never visit the past—there’s a time and a place for that.
And it isn’t to say you should never visit the future—how else can you chart out your life’s path?
It’s merely to say, the measure of your love isn’t equal to the total time spent with another person any more than it’s the measure of the total time you’ve spent with yourself.
Those who measure highest in self-love are the ones who have spent the most time in presence with themselves—working through the heavy, turbulent, crap times as much as they might’ve spent soaking in the more light, joyful, easy times. And so it is for those who measure the highest in joint love, too.
…If you’re looking for love, looking to rekindle a love, or looking to deepen your current love, I’d say, start with here.
Inner work prompt: Your turn. How do you think love can most accurately be measured?