What letter grade would you give yourself for actually doing the things you say you’re going to do? A-? B? …F?
If you are failing in follow through—in matching your actions to your words—everything in your life will be affected.
Fix this by making smaller promises/ announcements/ goals and remembering not to agree to things you don’t seriously think you’ll be able to do.
Refocus your efforts from trying to capture HUGE word-to-action matchings and start accumulating mountains of small matchings instead. For example, instead of telling yourself that you’re going to lose 30 pounds in 30 days!—tell yourself that you’re going to show up to the gym for 15 of the next 30 days.
The house of trust is built one brick at a time.
The wrecking ball of mistrust slams against those bricks every time you don’t follow through on your word.
Build patiently. Commit consciously. Do everything you can to NOT slam that wrecking ball into your walls. It’s much harder to build than it is to destroy. And until we build a house of trust with ourselves, we won’t have a roof we can house our best lives in.