What I’m ACTUALLY trying to get people to realize when I teach/ train/ coach:
The reward of doing 1 hour of hard work >>>>> 1000 moments of media-based dopamine hits.
Helping busy people do inner work.
What I’m ACTUALLY trying to get people to realize when I teach/ train/ coach:
The reward of doing 1 hour of hard work >>>>> 1000 moments of media-based dopamine hits.
People will come around when they will.
It’s not your responsibility to make them come around or to expedite their coming around process (unless, of course, it is).
It’s your responsibility to focus on your own coming around.
Don’t put your life on hold so that others can have somebody else focused on their coming around.
Keep playing your life out as you will (without hesitation or apology) and leave behind a strong model worth coming around for.
P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week here.
You’re much more likely to grow a tree by planting seeds than you are just waiting for the seeds to plant themselves.
The same is true for growing people.
You’re much more likely to inspire growth in people by planting mind seeds than you are waiting for the seeds to plant themselves.
Leadership is influence—nothing more and nothing less.
And if you interact with people, guess what? You influence them.
You can’t interact with someone and not influence them.
Therefore, it’s time you started looking at yourself as a leader.
This, in and of itself, has the ability to change your whole demeanor.
Next, you must carefully reflect on how you’ve been using your influence.
It’s time we stopped looking at leadership as a role reserved for a select few.
It’s a role that each of us gets to embody in full each day.
The question simply becomes: will you own it?
“I believe in you.” Is the water to the planted seed.
Disbelief, in all its forms, is the desert heat that stunts the seed’s growth.
People tend to perform in proportion to how much (or how little) people believe in them.
Their seeds are there, maybe all they need is some watering—from you.
…You don’t.
People can’t be changed.
They can only choose to change themselves.
What you can do is influence them to choose to change.
What that doesn’t mean: force your influence down their throat.
What that looks like: unsolicited advice; ceaselessly checking to see if they’re following your advice; becoming emotionally invested in their choices.
What unforced influence looks like: living your best life; sharing what you learn with those interested along the way; letting people do with your advice what they may—and not taking any decision(s) personally.
Here’s the thing: other people aren’t yours to change.
Let them choose to live how they may—it’s their life.
The only person you should ever be trying to change is yourself.
Which is, paradoxically, exactly how you best change others.
“Today, or anytime, when you catch yourself wanting to condescendingly drop some knowledge that you have, grab it and ask: Would I be better saying words or letting my actions and choices illustrate that knowledge for me?“
Ryan Holiday, via MoveMe Quotes
If you are looking to get in shape, who are you more likely to take advice from? The certified, highly educated, unhealthy trainer — or one of your friends who lives a remarkably healthy lifestyle?
If you are looking to grow your online presence, who are you more likely to listen to? The social media expert, promising 0–100k followers, who has little to no engagement on any of their posts—or the person who posts content that you love engaging with?
When you think about the people who have influenced you the most in your life, do you think specifically about the words they said—or do you think about the way they made you feel from how they acted towards you?
What you will find is that in almost every case what we do speaks louder and has a greater impact than what we say. Even the subtlest of actions may outperform the most potent of words. And so, before you go dropping knowledge bombs on those around you, try subtly modeling the knowledge that you behold instead.
Learn how to get people to hear you without saying anything at all. Learn how to let your presence exemplify your beliefs. Learn how to let your choices reveal your character. Learn how to be the person you advise others to be—and you’ll find that your advise will start becoming more widely received.