Category: Experiential Living

Yes, you’re on a mission. Yes, you have an itinerary. Yes, you’re on a timeline.

But… why be so rigid?

A side quest implies a following of curiosity… a swapping of itinerary for serendipity… an exchange of hitting future benchmarks for surrendering to what’s immediately present.

Urges to side quest nudge at you all of the time. But most likely, you’re too busy trying to be productive…. Or too distracted with external stimuli… or too brainwashed into following an exact path perfectly… that you miss them… or dismiss them… or even knowingly kiss them goodbye.

But what’s so important to remember is that side questing is an urge that’s usually sent directly from the soul.

It’s hard to explain but feeling called to start a little side-hustle or go chat to that other group of people or detour down a different life path… is a feeling worth honoring… and at the very least… contemplating.

Because just like it’s true that our gut usually tells us something is wrong before our brain knows why… so, too, will our gut tell us that there’s something right about a decision before our brain knows why.

You just have to learn to listen and muster up some courage to say yes.

After all, why be in such a hurry to finish your life mission in the first place?

Being spontaneous can be quite stressful on people.

Generally speaking, people like to know where they’re going, how they’re getting there, what to expect, how to prepare, what they’ll need, and who they might run into or see.

…But knowing all of that defeats the point of spontaneity.

Spontaneity is about trusting yourself and your intuition, your experience, and your capabilities… and leaning into the day with only a whiff of a direction or a gist of a goal.

And today, not only was I able to flex that spontaneity muscle, but I was able to do it with someone who was equally trusting.

He had complete faith in the process, carried zero worries with him throughout the day, and simply focused on contributing fully to the moments we found ourselves in.

Whether you’re being the spontaneous one or find yourself in the accompanying role… learning to trust yourself and how to contribute more fully to the overall process can lead to significantly more enjoyable days.

One trap I’ve fallen into in the past is spending too much time preparing and planning—and not enough time experimenting and doing.

I recognized this in myself very early into my DJing journey.

I was spending SO. MUCH. TIME. downloading music, filling in meta data, setting hot cues and memory points, and creating playlists…

So much so that I was barely doing any actual DJing.

So I’m trying to more mindfully walk this balance between prep and go. Because, yes, too much go and not enough prep leaves you confused, disjointed, and without a coherent sound… but too much prep and not enough go leaves you just as confused and disjointed as you come face to face with the decks.

So much of life is about finding the balance between these two.

…About sorting through the infinite information that’s available and acting on what’s chosen.

…About building book smarts, but also street smarts.

…About picking a direction and just as importantly… walking the path picked.

How are you doing with this balancing act?

One of my favorite memories with Jayh was at a New Year’s Eve party.

We were at my friend Tony’s house who had a music room. There was a drum set, a keyboard, a mic, and speakers playing smooth tunes as we prepped to ring in the new year.

At one point, Tony started playing the keyboard and riffing on the mic. Jayh came up to me and said, “Matt, take the drums!”

And I told him something along the lines of, “Not a chance…” And proceeded to explain that I didn’t have a musical bone in my body.

And Jayh looked at me… almost dumfounded and said, “Bro. You grab the sticks and hit.”

And while I continued to insist against it, he went in and grabbed the sticks and hit.

Zero hesitation. All heart.

What he said that night didn’t get me to play the drums… but, it’s resonated in my head ever since.

…Just grab the sticks and hit.

Why complicate it? Everybody starts somewhere. And the more we tell ourselves we can’t or we’re not good enough or “we’re not musical enough…” the more we’re going to hold ourselves back from starting.

…And there are a bunch of really great memories that each of us have missed because of it.

There was a time not long ago when none of these streets were paved… when none of this track was laid… when none of this technology even existed in mind…

A time when people couldn’t casually fly and ride to destinations hundreds—even thousands—of miles away with a few taps on a screen… for the price of a few days of work… for no reason but to explore other pieces of land…

It’s easy to forget.

…Not only to not take it for granted, but to fully utilize what’s miraculously here. Don’t you realize what you have the opportunity to do? Don’t you realize what day and age you’re actually living in? Don’t you realize how many hundreds—even thousands—of generations had to suffer, innovate, and create to get you here?

…Or are you distracted and/or being restricted?

It’s easy to forget.

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P.s. Here’s the picture that inspired this post.

At some point on his journey, Matteo Milleri decided he wanted to start producing music. Which began as experimentation and eventually graduated to profession. Throughout that time, in addition to working incredibly hard to build a unique sound… he decided to start expanding and reimagining the visual landscape for his live performances as well—resulting in increasingly breath-taking, awe inspiring artistic expressions with each successive show. And so set the stage for Anyma.

Because just as he was out in front, pushing the boundaries of live audio-visual performances, the completion of the world’s largest and highest resolution interior and exterior LED screen was coming to a completion—The Sphere in Las Vegas. And breath-taking, awe inspiring audiovisual performances were high in demand. And who better to book than the person who was out in front… taking risks… taking initiative… elevating the bar of the industry as a whole and giving the art their all…? This is how The End of Genesys at The Sphere was born.

…And damn, what a breath-taking, awe-inspiring audiovisual masterpiece of a live and in-person experience it was. One that simply can’t be explained in words or paper-sized pictures or videos (here’s my puny attempt).

…As it should be, my fellow life traveler.

…As it should be.

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Inner Work Prompt: What live and in-person experiences will you prioritize this year?

Think about some of your favorite memories.

Now reflect on the following question: how much would you sell those memories for?

As in, how much would someone have to pay you to take that memory from your mind and have it as their own?

…If you’re anything like me, your answer(s) might help you realize just how great the ROI is on experiences invested in.

…And those plane tickets, hotel costs, and days off work suddenly might not feel as expensive.

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P.s. ICYMI, you can see the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.