If you want to improve the love you have with another…
Help the other improve the love they have with themself.
Let them have alone time, explore their interests, try new things, create and express freely, learn new skills, go on retreats, do poignant inner work…
You stopping them from doing such tasks is precisely what’s stopping them from being able to love you deeper.
Why? Because each of us can only ever love to the level of our own self-love.
A person’s inability to love another deeper has nothing to do with the other’s worthiness of receiving deeper love.
P.s. I asked “What are you avoiding?” Because it isn’t obvious to me what I might be avoiding. Worth thinking carefully about. Here are other people’s thoughts.