Nobody should care more about your life than you.
Because nobody can ever fully understand your life—and all that it entails—more than you.
So what happens when you care more about what others think than what you think yourself?
- It means you’ve outsourced the weight of your care to them.
- It means you’ll prioritize how you act in ways that satisfies their cares over your own.
- It means you think their care is more aligned with your wants, needs, desires than your own.
And one of the reasons we care so much about what other people think is because we want to fit in and gain their acceptance.
But, what we have to realize is that if we don’t act in ways that is optimally aligned with our deepest wants, needs, and desires—we become irritable, frustrated, and confused.
Because that’s how being out of alignment feels.
The ironic truth is that the path towards acceptance with others is the path that leads towards acceptance of self first.
Because when we are in alignment with our deepest wants, needs, and desires—we become joyful, unbothered, and confident. And THAT is what attracts the people of your tribe who bring with them fitting in and acceptance.
Fulfillment isn’t something that can ever be outsourced.
No matter how well intentioned and good-willed the other people in your life might be.
…It can only ever be sourced from within.