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Month: October 2022

Authentic Media

Sharing publicly a highlight-reel version of our lives feels like it’s in our best interest because it:

  • Makes us “more attractive”
  • May lead to more opportunities
  • Can capture attention that can be leveraged

What’s really in our best interest is sharing an authentic version of our lives because it:

  • Attracts an authentic tribe
  • Leads to more aligned opportunities
  • Captures attention from the right people

Worth mentioning that these two aren’t mutually exclusive, though.

A public presence can certainly feature both—we can have an authentic highlight-reel.

But, more often than not, the former is focused on at the expense of the latter. And our mental health pays a toll in the long-run.


P.s. I asked: “What cleanses your soul?” I hope the answers inspire you to do more of what cleanses yours.

Freedom via Money

“Money isn’t the goal—freedom is.”

Careful.

Because if money is the means to an end… and you’re miserable along the way (trying to make a bunch of money so you can buy freedom)… you’ll end up confined within a prison of your own making—unfree—without realizing it until you blink and years of your life are gone…

…And you’re left with bags of money (best case scenario) that can’t buy back any of the freedom that came with the youth that’s been spent.

If freedom is the goal, make freedom the means.

Better to creatively find ways you can work less (so you can enjoy more free time) or more freely—doing what you love, with people you love, on a mission you love working on—so that freedom is your reality with each step along the way.


P.s. In case you missed it, you can read the best of what I posted to MoveMe Quotes last week, here.

Life’s Annoying Teachers

  • Overreacting
  • Getting pissed off
  • Feeling irritated/frustrated
  • Burning with envy and jealousy
  • Incessantly needing to show off
  • Rooting for other people’s failure
  • Feeling unworthy compared to others

…Are each teachers trying to instill a valuable lesson about your inner workings.

And you’ll keep getting the same lesson over and over until you actually pay attention, study, and pass their tests.


P.s. More on this here: How To Deal With People Who Annoy, Frustrate, and/or Upset You.

Information Swimming

Information is an ocean—and most of us are drowning.

Those who get ahead, are the ones who learn to swim.

They take the ocean seriously and never mindlessly wander into its depths.

They learn how to float; how to tread; how to stroke; how to dive; how to navigate.

Similarly, proficient swimmers in today’s information-based world learn how to:

  • Focus. So they don’t recklessly flap, twist, turn, and click with every distraction (i.e. Turning on an ad-blocker or putting notifications on silent).
  • Refine. So that each stroke/ click gets them better at future swimming (clicking)—not worse (i.e. Utilizing the Unfollow/ Mute/ Block buttons and more mindfully choosing who to follow and where to click).
  • Reflect. Because sometimes the ocean gets the best of even great swimmers. And maybe they take in a bunch of salt water through the nose or get caught under a big crashing wave (sucked into a YouTube rabbit hole). It’s in those moments that you have to figure out how you might handle the same situation from repeating in the future. Those who don’t reflect—don’t improve.

Being in an ocean when you don’t know how to swim is terrifying because the water is in control (and can lead to drowning).

Being in an ocean when you do know how to swim is incredibly refreshing and rewarding—because you are in control (and you get to swim in the ocean).

…And what a beautiful opportunity it truly is to swim confidently in the ocean.


P.s. Here’s an article I wrote on better managing your information diet: How to Upgrade the Quality of Your Life in 1 Hour.

Inside Jobs

  • Joy is an inside job.
  • Love is an inside job.
  • Health is an inside job.
  • Identity is an inside job.
  • Success is an inside job.
  • Discipline is an inside job.
  • Fulfillment is an inside job.

In today’s world, it’s easier than ever to think the opposite.

But, don’t get it twisted… the feelings/ states that you most desire…

Are built from the work you do within—never without.


P.s. I had a great conversation today with Emily Leahy and Samantha Demers on Scaling Businesses/ Energy Management/ and Mindset Mastery (conversation starts at the 3:40 mark). If this tickles your fancy, this conversation is for you (available for 30 days). Enjoy!

Re-Racking Emotional Weight

The weight from our past can be cripplingly heavy.

What we must remember, however, is that just as we can set down the heavy weight we pick up at the gym… so, too, can we set down the emotional weight we pick up throughout life.

We simply need to give ourselves the means (writing, talking, meditating), space, and permission to do so.

Imagine having to carry weight from the gym with you for an entire day—and not getting to put it down once. This is what your mind is experiencing except on a week/ month/ year/ decade level!

Sit; settle; relax; release; unload; unpack; talk; tremble; cry; confront; let go; let it flow.

…It’s time to re-rack some of that emotional weight you’ve been carrying for too long.


P.s. I’ll be hosting a LIVE chat Thursday (10/26) at 1:30pm EST on The Art of Mastering Your Mind to Scale In Business. I’d love to have you join if you’re free/interested.

BIG Reactions From small Happenings

BIG reactions from small happenings—both positive and negative—are events worth exploring (both in yourself and others).

BIG positive reactions (from small happenings) is a sign of emotional maturity—those who have done inner work.

  • Finding awe in the mundane
  • Expressing deep gratitude for small efforts
  • Sitting joyfully for no specific reason at all

BIG negative reactions (from small happenings) is a sign of emotional immaturity—those who are avoiding inner work.

  • Having a complete meltdown over a petty comment
  • Cultivating hate/resentment over silly, honest mistakes
  • Erupting in anger over a trivial gesture

If you find yourself having a disproportionately large reaction to something small… use it as an opportunity to explore your inner workings. Challenge yourself to set the huge reaction aside (if negative) and channel your inner curiosity instead.

Remember: big reactions don’t just come from nowhere.

They must stem from some deeper rooted source. The huge reactions, in many cases, are just distractions and coverups for what’s trying to remain unseen and in the background. But, the longer you ignore it (and allow the distractions to distract you), the worse it’ll get.

Because things don’t get better until you get better, eh?

Questions worth asking yourself when a disproportionate reaction arises:

  • Where is this reaction really coming from (i.e. is this anger or grief)?
  • What emotion/experience/idea is really underneath this big reaction (i.e. is this intense present-moment gratitude coming from a near-death experience)?
  • Why is this reaction being triggered now, at this time, in this way (i.e. what can I learn from this instance that will help me better address future, similar instances)?